The Art of Disowning

        I'm pretty sure that there is someone who have heard this in their lives or this be said to another in the family. This statement has been heard from all over the world. If you don't make the money for the family to look good or bragging rights than it's:

I Disown You.

        My first reaction is What?! How could anyone disown a child just because they want to live their lives and not live it exactly as the family wants them too. Since when does the family decides for the child on certain things. Deep down, that hurts and lives permanent emotional and psychological scars. Just because they want to do something that does not require a lot of money. Money does not define the character of a child, a teen nor a young adult. Now they have to walk with that scar for the rest of their lives.

 

     So they study all those hours and making straight A's and B's in school trying to make sure that they get the families approval because they want to be accepted by their parents. They even study things that they don't particularly like in the first place to get that approval. A family's approval means a lot to a kid. 

 

      They finally graduate with the degree that they have and they spring onward to college. However, in the back of their minds they still hear the echos of the "I Disown You" statement. This brings more stress for any person. Regardless of the age:

 

       Even with that, they still visit family and they still try their best to fit in and then here comes the comparisons: "your brother, your cousin, your sister, your friend's mother's brother's son is doing well. They just got a new house, they live out there in the suburbs of California and they just go promoted to a CEO position." I know I'm exaggerating a little bit but you guys get the idea. This adds more pressure because under handily that's like saying, "see I know you wouldn't amount up to nothing. There is always someone that's going to be better than you."

        

 

        

      And they make an earnest living. It may not be as ideal as the family would want them to have but they are working things out. They try their best every day with what they got. Regardless of education status or whatever the case may be. That's why its essential to be sure that we support them no matter what their situation is. No one wants to be disowned. Everyone wants love and support in whatever they are doing. We have to be positive towards one another and not feeding all that negative energy. 

 

       This is what feeds insecurities like crazy. This is the what creates insecurities.We have all kinds of beautiful people. All shapes and sizes and shades of color going out there breaking their necks from all over the world to achieve this so called "American Dream":

 

         This doesn't build our character at all. I have seem people with the most unattractive attitudes with the most biggest houses and well polished cars. This is a fake reality that our people have been sucked in to believe. As long as you have these things you are a star. You are someone. You will leave a legacy. This is NOT True. 

  

 

 

     Only YOU. YOU ARE THE LEGACY! Not the house. Not the car. Not the taxes. Not the job. Nothing that has anything to deal with what is outside of your skin. That doesn't build character nor self-identity. Only you. What you stand for and what you believe in that's where the Legacy resides. At the end of the day, when it's even 10 years after you leave the world and all you have is stuff to give to your kids and grand kids, they usually don't care about the stuff that you give because there is no Legacy in those things. It is you that they will share memories of and not your stuff. Remember, You are the Legacy.

       So all of this disowning stuff needs to stop. There is nothing wrong with a child persuing whatever they have a deep interest for. I understand that you want them to have an important income but that only creates misery if they are not doing what they want to do. Same goes for you to. Persue what you want to pursue. It doesn't matter what it is as long as it makes you happy. Do not worry about those who are brainwashed to think that the American Dream is all you need. Have your own dreams. Everything else will fall into place. Remember to encourage one another because it starts at a very young age:

 

The Youth are very impressionable and takes everything to heart so we need to start off by being positive and supportive. That's how we can see changes. God supports us in everything that we want to do, have interest in, or are currently doing or pursuing. Even when we are babies. From Childhood to the Elderly. So we should support each other too. There are more important things than living the "American Dream".

Peace.